Something between you has changed.
Maybe they've gone quiet. Maybe you have. Take the free 3-minute assessment and find out what's actually happening — and whether it's still reversible.
Take the free assessment3 minutes · No sign-up · Private · 17 calibrated questions
Your stage
1 of 5, on a clinically-grounded drift scale.
Your pattern
Pursue–withdraw, shutdown, mutual avoidance, more.
What's reversible
Honest read on the window you're still in.
— The math of waiting
Drift compounds quietly. So does repair.
6 yrs
Average wait before couples seek help
Most people sit with the drift for six years before saying it out loud. Every month of that is recoverable signal that goes quiet.
~70%
of distressed couples improve with structured intervention
When work begins early and is grounded in evidence, the odds tilt sharply back toward repair — even when it feels too late.
5 : 1
Positive-to-negative ratio in stable relationships
The Gottman research is unambiguous. The math of repair is small, daily, and learnable. Undrift is built around it.
Sources: Doss, Atkins & Christensen (couples-therapy timing); Lebow et al. (intervention efficacy); Gottman & Levenson (interaction ratios). See our References page for the full bibliography.
— Be honest with yourself
How many of these sound familiar?
It doesn't matter who's pulling away. What matters is that you've noticed.
— How it works
Three steps. None of them require your partner.
01
Take the free assessment
3 min · Free
17 questions, calibrated on decades of peer-reviewed relationship science.
02
See your Drift Map
Instant · Free
Your stage, your dominant pattern, what's reversible.
03
Unlock the Recovery Program
$4.99/mo or $49 lifetime
90 days in six two-week cycles. Daily nudges, scripts, a repair toolkit.
— What to expect
Six tools. One quiet, daily practice.
Undrift isn't a course you binge. It's a calibrated 90-day rhythm — small enough to fit a real life, structured enough to actually move the needle.
Your Drift Map
Stage 1 through 5, your dominant pattern, what's reversible. Calibrated, not generic.
84 daily nudges
Two-minute moves, not homework. The longer touch. The reach that's gone unanswered.
42 conversation scripts
Word-for-word starters that don't trigger defensiveness. Stage-curated to where you are.
The Pattern Library
Pursue-withdraw, blame-deflect, shutdown-shutdown. Diagnostics, exits, and what to try next.
The Repair Toolkit
10 evidence-based moves you can use mid-conflict, in real time, when it matters most.
Built for one person
No partner login. No notifications. Private journal. You decide what, if anything, to share.
Private by design
No partner account. No data shared. Ever.
Built for drift, not crisis
Catch it at Stage 2 — not at the threshold.
14-day money back
No questions. If it doesn't land, we refund.
— The Recovery Program
90 days to name it, turn it, and know which one you're in.
Six 14-day cycles. Calibrated to your stage and dominant pattern. Built for one person, working alone. No partner login. No notifications.
Your personal Drift Map
A complete read on what's happening, who's pulling where, and what's reversible.
14 daily nudges, six cycles
Tiny, specific moves. The longer touch. The reach that's gone unanswered. The question that changes the room. Re-take the assessment between cycles to track what's moving over 90 days.
42 conversation scripts
Word-for-word starters that don't trigger defensiveness.
The Pattern Library
Pursue-withdraw, blame-deflect, shutdown-shutdown, mutual avoidance, early drift — diagnostics and exits for each.
A private journaling space
Yours alone. Not shared with your partner. Not analyzed. Just a place to think.
The Repair Toolkit
10 evidence-based moves you can use in real time, mid-conflict, when it matters most.
— Two ways to start
Cancel anytime
Save ~18% vs monthly
- Your personal Drift Map
- 14 daily nudges per cycle (six cycles, 90 days)
- 42 conversation scripts
- The Pattern Library
- Private journaling space
- The Repair Toolkit (10 moves)
14-day money-back guarantee
No questions. Just write us.
You only pay after seeing your Drift Map.
For context: a single couples-therapy session typically runs $150–$300.
— From people who took it
What changed when they finally named it.
"I'd been carrying this alone for two years. Twenty minutes with Undrift and I finally had a name for it — and a script for the conversation I'd been rehearsing in my head since November."
Maya, 38
Stage 3 · Turning Point
"I thought it was her. The assessment, gently, told me it was me. I was the one who'd gone quiet. That was hard to read and exactly what I needed."
Daniel, 41
Pursue–Withdraw · He withdrew
"We'd tried two books and a podcast. Undrift was the first thing that didn't feel performative. The daily nudges are absurdly small. They worked."
Priya, 34
Stage 2 · Deepening Bond
— Honest answers
What people actually ask.
— Begin
You noticed. That matters more than you know.
The window narrows the longer drift goes unnamed. Three minutes from now, you'll know which window you're in.
Take the free assessment3 minutes · No sign-up · Private
Program upgrade is optional · 14-day money back · You only pay after seeing your Drift Map